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    Hello to whom ever reads this. I am a 15, my name is Georgia and I live in Fayetteville. I'm in love one of my friends who's name is Virginia and she's strait. She will never change her mind about me and I need to know how to get over her. Can anybody help me? I love her and I don't know how to stop loving her. Please help me.
    • CommentAuthorlas68
    • CommentTimeMay 26th 2010
     
    Hello Georgia. Well, I know this may not help much, but I was also in that situation at your age. At 15 we think we are in love, but you really aren't. You can't force anything on anyone, especially a friend. If she is truly a friend, you don't want to lose her by making unwanted advances or comments.
    I did tell my friend I loved her in the 10th grade. We remained friends until she got married our second year of college. Its a long story, but her husband didn't like our friendship.
    At 15 you have your entire life ahead of you. You will meet that special person that causes electricity to flow thru you with every touch, the one person that you would do anything for no matter what. It will not happen over night and unfortunately you will have your heart broken more than once, its just the way things go sometimes. I'm 42 and had my fair share of heartache. I just ended a relationship that I thought was the end all be all, but things just didn't work out.
    I don't know if this helps, but if you need someone to talk to, I'm here.
    Lisa
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    Thanks Lisa,
    Your comment does help and thanks for the offer for someone to talk to. Do you have any advice for coming out to your friends and family? That's the one thing I haven't asked anyone how to do and I'm a big coward so it's not easy to tell anyone.
    Thanks again for your help and if you ever need anyone to talk to I would be glad to return the favor.
    Georgia
    • CommentAuthorlas68
    • CommentTimeMay 28th 2010
     
    Well, when you decide to tell your friends, don't make it an uncomfortable situation for any of you. It doesn't have to be a serious sit down. You just have to tell them. A true friend won't judge you. Only you know how to talk to them. It may be easier to pick the closest person to you and start there. Family is a little more difficult. My parents were divorced and I lived with my Mom. Telling her wasn't a big deal, she basically knew before I said anything. My Dad was disappointed, but with time has become somewhat understanding. Society has given a negative stigma to our lives, but its getting better. Lisa
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    Thank you very much Lisa. This has really helped. If you think of any further comments or ideas don't hesitate to add them. I want anyone like me who needs help to be able to get the advice they need. Thanks again. Georgia
    • CommentAuthorlas68
    • CommentTimeJun 9th 2010
     
    Hey Georgia. How are things going?
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    Great I got over the girl I was majorly in love with and now I'm going out with a girl named Bethany and we had a great date on Monday. How are things with you?
    • CommentAuthorlas68
    • CommentTimeJun 17th 2010
     
    Good for you! I'm ok, taking things one day at a time. It sucks to be a grown up sometimes.
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    Yeah I bet. What sucks about it right now?
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    Hey Lisa,
    What's up? Haven't talked to you in a while. Just wondering if everything is going okay? I hope it is. Have a good day.
    Georgia
    • CommentAuthorlas68
    • CommentTimeJul 30th 2010
     
    Hey Georgia,
    Things are about the same here. Are you enjoying your summer?
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    yeah I am I got to one of my friends who I haven't seen in a year so its great. How's yours?
    • CommentAuthorlas68
    • CommentTimeAug 1st 2010
     
    I'm just working and trying to stay cool. Lol! I'm taking vacation in a few weeks, I can't wait. I need a break. So have you done anything fun?
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    Not really. It was mostly about waiting for my friend to get here. Now I'm just sad she's leaving. Where are you going on vacation?
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    That sounds like fun. Let me know if your in the area. What are you going to do up at Mount Magazine?

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